Saathi haath badhana, saathi, haath badhana;
ek akela thak jaayega, mil kar bojh uthana,
saathi haath badhana, saathi, haath badhana....
mehnat apni lekh ki diksha,
mehnat se kya darna,
kal gairon ki khatir ki aaj apni khatir karna,
fauladi hain seene apne, fauladi hain bahein,
HAM CHAHE TO PAIDA KARDE CHATANO MAIN RAAHEIN,
saathi haath badhana...
jai ho!ganesh.
P.S. : see you, soon, after some real achievements!
Friday, August 29, 2008
Thursday, August 28, 2008
Quo Vadis? Whither goest thou?
Yahaan kaun hain tera, musafir jaayega kahan, dam le le ghadi bhar, ke saiyan, payega kahan, yahan kaun hain, tera, a, aa, aaa!
great S.D. burman! what a soulful rendering.
similarly, the inimitable mukesh!
jeena yahan, marna yahan, iske sivai jaana kahan...!
Life is miserably blissful for the incorrigbly good!
what to do?!
the sitting ducks have to endure it, as long as they won't budge, and continue to be the sitting ducks/good samaritans!
meri duniya hain maa, tere anchal main, sheetal chaya...
again lovely song by burmanda!
jai ho!
ganesh.
great S.D. burman! what a soulful rendering.
similarly, the inimitable mukesh!
jeena yahan, marna yahan, iske sivai jaana kahan...!
Life is miserably blissful for the incorrigbly good!
what to do?!
the sitting ducks have to endure it, as long as they won't budge, and continue to be the sitting ducks/good samaritans!
meri duniya hain maa, tere anchal main, sheetal chaya...
again lovely song by burmanda!
jai ho!
ganesh.
Wednesday, August 20, 2008
The bitter halves?!
Is marriage still an institution, really preferred by the majority?
Today, it is more a case of bitter halves!
neither wants to be the better half!
or is it only something superficially evident in the metros?
A cause for concern, or natural evolution!
In any case, future shock/modernity has cast its ominous shadow over the future of mankind's great social invention : the marriage, the bedrock of family/the unit of society!
is there hope?
are things changing for the better?
should we be concerned?! of just go with the flow?
as in JUST DO IT! and think about repenting later!! if at all!
yahaan main ajnabi hoon, main jo bhi bas wahi hoon.....!
jai hind!
jai ho!
ganesh.
Today, it is more a case of bitter halves!
neither wants to be the better half!
or is it only something superficially evident in the metros?
A cause for concern, or natural evolution!
In any case, future shock/modernity has cast its ominous shadow over the future of mankind's great social invention : the marriage, the bedrock of family/the unit of society!
is there hope?
are things changing for the better?
should we be concerned?! of just go with the flow?
as in JUST DO IT! and think about repenting later!! if at all!
yahaan main ajnabi hoon, main jo bhi bas wahi hoon.....!
jai hind!
jai ho!
ganesh.
Monday, August 18, 2008
Friday, August 15, 2008
What is true freedom?! When are really independent?!
The inner freedom is not so easily obtained.
Apparently, one is living in a free country, having access to all things bright and beautiful, good and bad and can do as we please, as long as we don't overtly break law!
Is that true freedom? are we really independent?
Some of us are chained to the idea of TOTAL FREEDOM and would not accept any good idea, just for the sake of opposing/their right to dissent/the freedom of expression!
so, some of us maybe be well and truly bonded to freedom! chained by the need to be/look/feel free all the time!
on the other hand, if the inner self is in control, deliberates all options, with a sense of responsibility to oneself and the world around us, then one can truly be free.
The farmer who sits contented at the end of a long, hard day, and looks forward to a good meal, with his wife and kids, and a very unglamorous existence, may be free in the best sense of the term, both physically and mentally. He has no benchmarks to follow/no set path to aspire to!
he is so one with nature!
of course, he loses this independence in these modern times, with GE crops, et. al!
he is truly free, he has a wonderful interdependent relationship with nature and his fellow human beings.
He serves nature well and nature serves him well!
of course, all of us are thankful to the farmers for our daily annam!
Isiliye to Lal Bahadur Shashtri ji ne kahan tha :
JAI JAWAN, JAI KISAN!
jai ho!
Jai hind!
as we wrestle with the dilemma of apparent and true freedom!
one of the remarkable achievements of bharatvarsha has been that even though we were an occupied nation for centuries, through our intellectual brilliance, emotionally and spiritual resilience, we remained free inside! Nobody could invade our minds!
can the same be said in this 62nd year of independence, in the increasingly connected but not-so-free world?!
time will tell!
I am quietly confident that our resilient inner self will reassert itself, sooner rather than later!
thathastu!
tat tvam asi!
jai ho!
ganesh.
chennai.
7.27 p.m./15th August, 2008
Apparently, one is living in a free country, having access to all things bright and beautiful, good and bad and can do as we please, as long as we don't overtly break law!
Is that true freedom? are we really independent?
Some of us are chained to the idea of TOTAL FREEDOM and would not accept any good idea, just for the sake of opposing/their right to dissent/the freedom of expression!
so, some of us maybe be well and truly bonded to freedom! chained by the need to be/look/feel free all the time!
on the other hand, if the inner self is in control, deliberates all options, with a sense of responsibility to oneself and the world around us, then one can truly be free.
The farmer who sits contented at the end of a long, hard day, and looks forward to a good meal, with his wife and kids, and a very unglamorous existence, may be free in the best sense of the term, both physically and mentally. He has no benchmarks to follow/no set path to aspire to!
he is so one with nature!
of course, he loses this independence in these modern times, with GE crops, et. al!
he is truly free, he has a wonderful interdependent relationship with nature and his fellow human beings.
He serves nature well and nature serves him well!
of course, all of us are thankful to the farmers for our daily annam!
Isiliye to Lal Bahadur Shashtri ji ne kahan tha :
JAI JAWAN, JAI KISAN!
jai ho!
Jai hind!
as we wrestle with the dilemma of apparent and true freedom!
one of the remarkable achievements of bharatvarsha has been that even though we were an occupied nation for centuries, through our intellectual brilliance, emotionally and spiritual resilience, we remained free inside! Nobody could invade our minds!
can the same be said in this 62nd year of independence, in the increasingly connected but not-so-free world?!
time will tell!
I am quietly confident that our resilient inner self will reassert itself, sooner rather than later!
thathastu!
tat tvam asi!
jai ho!
ganesh.
chennai.
7.27 p.m./15th August, 2008
Wednesday, July 23, 2008
WOS # 26 : 7 Ways to Tell If You Are Addicted to Porn, By Yvonne K. Fulbright
Superb analysis of the 'disconnected inside' syndrome, plaguing all ultra-educated people in most places around the world!
http://www.foxnews.com/story/0,2933,357323,00.html
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FOXSexpert: 7 Ways to Tell If You Are Addicted to Porn
Friday, May 23, 2008
By Yvonne K. Fulbright
E-Mail Print Share:
FNC
Author’s note: This is not an article on whether or not erotica is morally wrong. It is not an article on whether porn use is an addiction (I'll get to those great debates at another time).
I pounced on it the moment it arrived. For months, I had been awaiting the publication of “The Porn Trap: The Essential Guide to Overcoming Problems Caused by Pornography,” eager to hear its take on what has become a national dilemma.
Like it or not, porn has become a problem in this country. Forty million Americans visit an Internet porn site at least once a month – and it’s hitting many where it hurts.
Not so coincidentally, therapists are reporting an increased number of clients presenting porn-related problems. For example, 50 percent of divorce cases in 2002 involved porn, according to “The Porn Trap” authors Wendy and Larry Maltz.
So how does a person know that they’ve fallen into “the porn trap”?
When does a fun escape for an individual or couple become a nightmare?
Your father’s Playboy is just that – so yesterday. Porn is coming at us from all angles, and we’re no longer talking suggestive pin-up girls.
Between unsolicited emails, deceptive Internet links, pop-up windows, chat rooms, videos, games and the more than 400 million internet pages of porn for your viewing pleasure, erotica is hard to escape, whether it’s soft- or hard-core.
Even if you thought you’d never be caught in the web of porn, the wrong click at the opportune time could have you hooked. Spicing up sex is just one of many reasons people explore all sorts of erotica.
Click here to discuss this story.
Maltz and Maltz outline the following reasons you may decide to innocently get in on the action – ones that may ultimately be a disaster waiting to happen:
— Your relationship, although committed, is sexless.
— Your understanding of sex is that porn equals pleasure.
— It’s easily accessible.
— You view porn as a stress reliever.
— You are having trouble being intimate with another human being.
It may seem harmless at first. Everything may seem under control. You’re just in it for kicks, right? But, as too many people can tell you, porn use is a slippery slope if you don’t keep yourself in check.
Here are some major red flags that you may have a problem with pornography:
1. You’ve become anti-social.
You are spending more time with pornography than you are with the outside world. If you are single (and even if you are putting yourself out there) your preoccupation with porn may be hindering your ability to establish long-term, monogamous relationships. If you are involved with someone, you may find yourself bowing out of couple and familial obligations to steal moments with your laptop or DVD player. Bottom line: You only have eyes for porn stars and no one else.
2. You’re lying to your partner.
Your once honest relationship is now plagued by secrecy and dishonesty as you try to hide your porn habit. About 70 percent of people keep their porn use a secret. And many will go to all sorts of extremes in making sure that they are not found out. Even when busted, many will do or say anything to hide the truth.
3. Your partner is no longer attractive.
Unbeknownst to your partner, s/he has competition – and it’s your favorite porn star. Obsessed with fantasy characters, you find it hard to get turned on to the real thing, including yourself. That’s right; you’re not even letting yourself off the hook. Casting yourself against fiction, you’re sizing yourself up as unattractive. Either way, you are likely avoiding or completely uninterested in sex with your lover.
4. Your sex life with your partner is suffering.
Both your sexual desire and functioning, including arousal, have taken a nose dive. You and your lover are feeling robbed of romance, passion and emotional closeness. This is because you are not truly present with your partner. Emotionally distant, you are too busy having sex with porn. Ultimately, you are dissatisfied with your actual sex life, and this is affecting your relationship.
5. Your concept of “real intimacy” has become warped.
When you re-emerge from the fantasy world, you’re finding that your expectations about sex, sexual partners and intimacy have become unrealistic. You’re only interested in those who look and act like porn stars (which severely limit your dating pool if single). Sadly, you start to think there must be something “wrong” with your lover for not putting out like a porn star. Furthermore, you’re objectifying others, wondering what he or she would look like unclothed or how they would act during sex.
6. The habit is causing you distress.
Torn between desire and shame, your use of porn is causing you physiological and emotional distress. You may feel like a “sex pervert,” or suffer from isolation, shame, anger, unrest, depression and irritability. You may be distressed over the fact that using porn conflicts with your value system. Overall, your porn kink is starting to cause family, work, legal and/or spiritual problems.
7. You are engaging in risky behaviors.
You might be OK with ideas that usually make you think twice, for instance, having unprotected sex, but now you are engaging in behavior that is out of control. Soliciting a prostitute, looking at child pornography or anything involving animals or violence warrants a need for help.
If your porn habit is causing you to neglect important life matters, you should seek professional help, especially if it is causing you and your partner distress. A sex counselor or therapist may be able to help.
It also wouldn’t hurt to read “The Porn Trap,” which I thought was well-written and thoughtful.
— National Strategy to Fight HIV/AIDS Needed. Advocates attending a congressional briefing Tuesday called on the U.S. to implement a plan targeting high-risk populations in reducing the stigma against HIV and AIDS. A plan mirroring the framework of the President George W. Bush’s Emergency Plan for AIDS Relief is being suggested by some.
— Aussies Prefer a Comprehensive Approach. A study out of the University of Sydney has found that most parents in Australia support comprehensive sex education programs starting in primary school. The vast majority want realistic programs that offer information on birth control and safer sex rather than abstinence alone. In fact, 15 percent of parents surveyed felt the topic of abstinence should be banned from sex education classes entirely.
— Up to 1 in Ten Women Suffer From Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder (HSDD). A recent American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists meeting suggested that only one-third of those with HSDD seek advice or help. However, the condition can have a serious impact on one's quality of life, causing psychological distress and impacting intimate relationships negatively.
Dr. Yvonne Kristín Fulbright is a sex educator, relationship expert, columnist and founder of Sexuality Source Inc. She is the author of several books including, "Touch Me There! A Hands-On Guide to Your Orgasmic Hot Spots."
http://www.foxnews.com/story/0,2933,357323,00.html
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FOXSexpert: 7 Ways to Tell If You Are Addicted to Porn
Friday, May 23, 2008
By Yvonne K. Fulbright
E-Mail Print Share:
FNC
Author’s note: This is not an article on whether or not erotica is morally wrong. It is not an article on whether porn use is an addiction (I'll get to those great debates at another time).
I pounced on it the moment it arrived. For months, I had been awaiting the publication of “The Porn Trap: The Essential Guide to Overcoming Problems Caused by Pornography,” eager to hear its take on what has become a national dilemma.
Like it or not, porn has become a problem in this country. Forty million Americans visit an Internet porn site at least once a month – and it’s hitting many where it hurts.
Not so coincidentally, therapists are reporting an increased number of clients presenting porn-related problems. For example, 50 percent of divorce cases in 2002 involved porn, according to “The Porn Trap” authors Wendy and Larry Maltz.
So how does a person know that they’ve fallen into “the porn trap”?
When does a fun escape for an individual or couple become a nightmare?
Your father’s Playboy is just that – so yesterday. Porn is coming at us from all angles, and we’re no longer talking suggestive pin-up girls.
Between unsolicited emails, deceptive Internet links, pop-up windows, chat rooms, videos, games and the more than 400 million internet pages of porn for your viewing pleasure, erotica is hard to escape, whether it’s soft- or hard-core.
Even if you thought you’d never be caught in the web of porn, the wrong click at the opportune time could have you hooked. Spicing up sex is just one of many reasons people explore all sorts of erotica.
Click here to discuss this story.
Maltz and Maltz outline the following reasons you may decide to innocently get in on the action – ones that may ultimately be a disaster waiting to happen:
— Your relationship, although committed, is sexless.
— Your understanding of sex is that porn equals pleasure.
— It’s easily accessible.
— You view porn as a stress reliever.
— You are having trouble being intimate with another human being.
It may seem harmless at first. Everything may seem under control. You’re just in it for kicks, right? But, as too many people can tell you, porn use is a slippery slope if you don’t keep yourself in check.
Here are some major red flags that you may have a problem with pornography:
1. You’ve become anti-social.
You are spending more time with pornography than you are with the outside world. If you are single (and even if you are putting yourself out there) your preoccupation with porn may be hindering your ability to establish long-term, monogamous relationships. If you are involved with someone, you may find yourself bowing out of couple and familial obligations to steal moments with your laptop or DVD player. Bottom line: You only have eyes for porn stars and no one else.
2. You’re lying to your partner.
Your once honest relationship is now plagued by secrecy and dishonesty as you try to hide your porn habit. About 70 percent of people keep their porn use a secret. And many will go to all sorts of extremes in making sure that they are not found out. Even when busted, many will do or say anything to hide the truth.
3. Your partner is no longer attractive.
Unbeknownst to your partner, s/he has competition – and it’s your favorite porn star. Obsessed with fantasy characters, you find it hard to get turned on to the real thing, including yourself. That’s right; you’re not even letting yourself off the hook. Casting yourself against fiction, you’re sizing yourself up as unattractive. Either way, you are likely avoiding or completely uninterested in sex with your lover.
4. Your sex life with your partner is suffering.
Both your sexual desire and functioning, including arousal, have taken a nose dive. You and your lover are feeling robbed of romance, passion and emotional closeness. This is because you are not truly present with your partner. Emotionally distant, you are too busy having sex with porn. Ultimately, you are dissatisfied with your actual sex life, and this is affecting your relationship.
5. Your concept of “real intimacy” has become warped.
When you re-emerge from the fantasy world, you’re finding that your expectations about sex, sexual partners and intimacy have become unrealistic. You’re only interested in those who look and act like porn stars (which severely limit your dating pool if single). Sadly, you start to think there must be something “wrong” with your lover for not putting out like a porn star. Furthermore, you’re objectifying others, wondering what he or she would look like unclothed or how they would act during sex.
6. The habit is causing you distress.
Torn between desire and shame, your use of porn is causing you physiological and emotional distress. You may feel like a “sex pervert,” or suffer from isolation, shame, anger, unrest, depression and irritability. You may be distressed over the fact that using porn conflicts with your value system. Overall, your porn kink is starting to cause family, work, legal and/or spiritual problems.
7. You are engaging in risky behaviors.
You might be OK with ideas that usually make you think twice, for instance, having unprotected sex, but now you are engaging in behavior that is out of control. Soliciting a prostitute, looking at child pornography or anything involving animals or violence warrants a need for help.
If your porn habit is causing you to neglect important life matters, you should seek professional help, especially if it is causing you and your partner distress. A sex counselor or therapist may be able to help.
It also wouldn’t hurt to read “The Porn Trap,” which I thought was well-written and thoughtful.
— National Strategy to Fight HIV/AIDS Needed. Advocates attending a congressional briefing Tuesday called on the U.S. to implement a plan targeting high-risk populations in reducing the stigma against HIV and AIDS. A plan mirroring the framework of the President George W. Bush’s Emergency Plan for AIDS Relief is being suggested by some.
— Aussies Prefer a Comprehensive Approach. A study out of the University of Sydney has found that most parents in Australia support comprehensive sex education programs starting in primary school. The vast majority want realistic programs that offer information on birth control and safer sex rather than abstinence alone. In fact, 15 percent of parents surveyed felt the topic of abstinence should be banned from sex education classes entirely.
— Up to 1 in Ten Women Suffer From Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder (HSDD). A recent American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists meeting suggested that only one-third of those with HSDD seek advice or help. However, the condition can have a serious impact on one's quality of life, causing psychological distress and impacting intimate relationships negatively.
Dr. Yvonne Kristín Fulbright is a sex educator, relationship expert, columnist and founder of Sexuality Source Inc. She is the author of several books including, "Touch Me There! A Hands-On Guide to Your Orgasmic Hot Spots."
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